Why Your Wife Is More Likely to Divorce You? - Alpha Male Nation
There are many problems that could occur in a marriage and may lead to a divorce. However, research shows that women are more likely to initiate divorce than men. In a study conducted by the American Sociological Association, you can see that women more often file the divorce. Unfortunately, there are many factors that cause the destruction of marriages. Whether the separation occurs gradually or suddenly, a partner of the couple sees in divorce the only solution, and the attempt to save their marriage is out of the question.
No matter if there is a lack of interest of the wife or the husband, a serious health problem, financial difficulties or loss of employment, in any marriage appears a difficult time, where divorce seems the best option. It may happen that the love you had for your wife slowly deteriorated, because of an emotional or physical affair, continued fighting and conflict, mental issues, alcohol or drug abuse or even because you were separated due to work, personal choice or parents.
As Michael Rosenfeld says, author of an interesting study, Ph. D. and an associate professor of sociology at Stanford University, women are more likely to file divorce because they are less satisfied with the privilege of the marriage than men are. Women spend more time on housework and childcare, while men enjoy more than 20 percent more leisure time a week than their wives do.
Sometimes women have to work too much at their office and at home, taking care of the house, cooking and taking care of their children. All these hard work, stress and less time for leisure affect one’s marriage and leads to divorce. It is not easy to continue to be in marriage which cause your unhappiness and if some women try to work on their marriages and to solve their problems, other choose to breakup and to start a new life.
As studies shows, the average age of couples divorcing for the first time is 30 years old. People with the age between 25 to 39 initiate 60 percent of all divorces. It seems that couples with an increased income are present the lower rate of divorces. 25% of people who divorce make this choice due to abuse, while 41% divorce because of the lack of preparation for marriage. Other reasons include infidelity, too much arguing, lack of commitment or the unrealistic expectations.
Living with your partner prior the marriage may increase the chances of getting a divorce. As you can see, there are numerous factors that may determine your wife to get a divorce. The best thing you can do is to try to save your marriage as much as possible and to revive the love that made you two marry in the first place. It can be difficult and may seem impossible, but it worth to give it a try, especially if you had a beautiful marriage.
For some people is natural and easy to make a marriage work. They manage to stay together for decades and live a happy and fulfilling life. For other is impossible, no matter how hard they try. It doesn’t mean we have to blame ourselves if our marriage is broken. Things happen for no reason, because people change and their needs and wishes changes, too.
Signs that shows that your wife wants a divorce
There are many signs that may show you your wife wants a divorce. You may be concerned if she has become very critical of you. Even if you are not doing anything wrong, she has always something bad to say about you, is unsatisfied all the time and says hurtful things to you. When a woman wants to divorce her husband, she knows it is easier to distance herself and tell you about the divorce if she is critical to you first.
Intimacy plays an important role in a relationship, because it reflects the deep emotional connection between a husband and his wife. Sometimes intimacy disappears in a marriage and if you feel that your relationship with your wife it has no transparency, no reciprocity, no dialogue and no vulnerability, means that something is wrong. In some cases it may happen that the wife prefer to spend as much time as possible away from home, because many women tired of being married will do anything just to be out of the house.
Because women are extremely emotional, you may notice changes in your sex life, either more sex or less, which may indicates that your wife want to divorce you. Once the problem appear in a marriage, it seems impossible to make things work and even to communicate with each other. When your wife refuses to communicate with you and has no interest on your marriage, it a good sings that she wants a divorce.
Fighting is a serious problem in a marriage and it is a source of stress and unhappiness. If the fighting has no motive and your wife is fighting just for the sake of fighting, it may suggest you that she wants a divorce. When you notice some changes in your wife and you ask her what is wrong, if the answer is “Nothing”, you should trust your gut. Sometimes it can be something she is hiding from you, hoping to find the right moment.
Another reason that may lead to divorce is the change that occurs in one’s marriage. It may seem absurd, but it is true, because not all of us react good to changes. Among the changes may lead to divorce are the ones in employment, which means a change in money. Many marriage problems are caused by financial difficulties.
It doesn’t necessary means that if you notice one or more of these sings your wife wants to divorce you, but is good to take this into consideration, especially if your marriage is facing serious difficulties. Once you discover the truth, you will have to decide what you will do next. These situations are extremely delicate and it is difficult to find the right way to handle them.
Sometimes it may happen that our wife wants a divorce, without showing us any signs. It is important to be strong and able to face all the problems you may have to.
How can you stop your wife from divorcing you?
When your wife want to divorce you and you want to save your marriage, you are in one of the most difficult situations of your life. What should you do next? Do you try to convince your wife to work on your marriage or you let her go? Definitely it depends on your situation, but in most cases is good to give it another chance, in order to make things work again.
When your wife want to leave you, the worst thing you can do is to beg her to stay. Although you will promise her to make some serious changes, you will end up being pathetic and will not help you at all. In addition, it is not good to refuse leaving the house if your wife ask you to. You better try to refuse her kindly, even though you can stop your wife from leaving the house.
Wanting so badly to save your marriage may determine you to do some stupid things, which will only makes everything worse. If you are the one to blame for your wife desire to divorce, it’s time for you to do some serious changes. Have you been having affairs, have you been critical or complaining or have you losing your temper frequently, it is better to stop all that?
It is true that you can’t change your mistake, but you can stop doing the same mistakes again. If things got too complicated, you can go to counseling. It is cheaper than divorce and can save your marriage. If your wife is one that is having an affair, try not to spy or to put pressure on her. Focus on what you want to do next and if you want to save your marriage, do your best, without complicating things.
It is useless to blame yourself for the problems in your marriage. The important thing is to do your best to save your marriage and to repair the wrong that has been done. It is helpful to make positive changes in order to improve your relationship and show your wife that your marriage worth to be saved. You need to seek for professional help, because it will help you find the right way to save your marriage.
When there is nothing you can do to prevent your wife from leaving you, you have to let her go. In some cases, the only way to solve your difficulty is to get a divorce and continue to your life. No matter how difficult it may be, you will find a way to deal with all the pain caused by your divorce and to start over.
You can go to therapy, when things get difficult and you think you can deal with a divorce. It is natural to suffer and to need help. The important thing is to seek for help and to go to a specialist, who can help us cure our broken heart. It is easier this way to move on and to accept that our marriage didn’t work. It is no shame in being divorced, because it is worse to remain in a marriage that makes you and your partner unhappy than to separate. A divorce is a mature solution.
How you know the divorce is the only thing you can do?
It is difficult to know exactly if a divorce is the right choice, especially if you have children. It is wrong to stay married because you are scared of being alone or you don’t want to be away from your children. If you are able to set a positive goal, like to maintain a harmony in your family for you, your wife and your children, your marriage may work.
You will know that divorce is the only way when you have tried everything. Make sure you have tried everything to improve your relationship before you reach a decision. If both you and your wife want to work on your marriage and to solve all your issue, in order to create a healthier relationship, there are chances to solve your marriage. If you and your wife want your marriage to last, seek for help and go to marital therapy. This way you can see what are your problems and what can you do to solve them.
Parents think that they should remain together for the sake of their children. You put your needs first, before those of your children or of your wife, because children will be happier if you get a divorce. A broken home is better than a family with problems, fighting, and lack of harmony. Also, you should accept when the relationship is over.
A normal marriage should be based of honesty, trust, fidelity, and commitment, but without any of these, you will be part of an unhappy marriage. You will know when it is time to let go and when we have to fight for your wife and for your children. If there is physical abuse or the use of drugs and alcohol in a marriage, the only thing you can do is to divorce. Also, if your partner cheat on your repeatedly or when it changes his sexual orientation is also better to get a divorce.
A divorce is not the end of the world, but the start of a better life. Some mistakes in a marriage can’t be forgotten or forgiven and people should look to the future, not to the past. Remaining in a damaged marriage, with no chances to become a healthier relationship is a waste of time and a source of unhappiness and stress. Both partners will suffer if there is nothing left to do to save their marriage.
We tend to think of people around when we have to choose whether to divorce or not, but is wrong. It is true that people who love us will be affected if we divorce, but they will be more unhappy if you remain in a damaged marriage. There is no point in punishing yourself if there isn’t in your power to change things.
If you look deeply in your heart, you will know when to accept a divorce and when to fight for your own marriage and happiness.